Part 1: The Simple System for Attracting Women!
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Hi,
Over the next week or two I’m going to be sharing with you my simple system for attracting women.
In the next 5-7 blog posts I’m going to cover all of the basics of attracting women, everything from what to say on the initial approach to making the first sexual move.
To learn more about me and why you should listen to me go here: “More About Captain Jack, PUA”
Every Courtship goes through the same basic stages:
- Approach
- Male-Female Tension
- Qualification
- Sexual Interest
- Logistics
- Sexual Escalation
We’ll focus on the first one in this article. The Approach.
On the initial approach you have a basic decision to make: Indirect Opener or Direct Opener.
An Indirect Opener means you are NOT going to show your interest in her right away. You are going to make small talk, ask her opinion on something or make an observation about the environment/situation you are in.
Example: “Hey, can I get your opinion on something? Would you ever date your best friend’s ex?”
Most women will either start talking your head off or ask a question or two about the situation. You need to have a “Back Story” which shows WHY you’re asking. It could be something as simple as:
“I’m asking because one of my good friend’s exes is coming on to me pretty strong… There’s some real chemistry their and they’ve been through with each other for quite awhile…”
A Direct Opener directly conveys your interest. You tell her how you feel, “Hey, I noticed you from over there. I think you are absolutely beautiful and I want to get to know you.”
(There’s an EXCELLENT eBook all about the initial approach and a complete list of “Openers” called “The Art of Approaching.” I suggest you get it if you are serious about meeting women.)
She’ll be absolutely stunned. Trust me.
Her next move will be one of the following:
- “Thanks, but I’m married/have a boyfriend.”
- Silence (still stunned).
If she is unavailable you can smile and say something like “Well, that makes sense, doesn’t it? I’d snatch you up, too. Pleasure meeting you.” And, walk off.
If she is stunned in silence you will need to break her out of it with small talk to allow her to get her bearings. I like to use one of these questions:
- What do you do when you’re not here doing XYZ? (Ex: “What do you do for fun when you’re not at X-Bar with your friends?”)
- Are you from the area?
Those two questions will give her some time to calm down from the absolute rush and adrenaline that the Direct Approach gives a woman.
Notice that the above examples are Openers and NOT pick-up lines. We call them Openers because they open up a conversation, whereas Pick-up lines are generally passive-aggressive ways of conveying interest.
Women do NOT enjoy pick-up lines, but almost every woman will appreciate a good conversation and/or a conveyance of Direct Interest.
Body Language on Approach
Remember, you are twice as big (hopefully, haaa) and four times as strong as the females you will be approaching. It can be scary for them. So you need to come off as comfortable and non-threatening.
The easiest way to do this is to Smile!
That’s right, smile! Sounds simple and it is but it’s importance cannot be stressed enough.
You need to have your hands at your sides. Shoulders relaxed. No fidgeting.
Project your voice. If she has to strain to hear you it makes you seem weak or nervous. Both are unattractive. Calm, even speaking.
You want to be close enough that you could probably reach out and touch her if you wanted to but not any closer than that. Respect her personal space.
If the conversation goes on another minute or so and she’s smiling and engaged you can move a bit closer. By that time she may have moved closer to you on her own.
The next article will show you How to Keep the Conversation going WITHOUT becoming boring and creating sexual tension so you don’t end up in the “Nice Guy” frame or in the Friend Zone.
~ Captain Jack ~
P.S. Here’s a post on my advanced blog about another style of Openers called “Low Investment Openers” or LIO’s for short: “Low Investment Openers: A First Step to Making Your Seductions Seem Mutual”
P.P.S. There’s an EXCELLENT eBook all about the initial approach and a complete list of “Openers” called “The Art of Approaching.” I suggest you get it if you are serious about meeting women.
